Learning to be Okay with Being by Ourselves

Sometimes one of the best relationships we build after going to 12 step treatment, AA, or Above It All is the one we build with ourselves. When we first get sober and receive rehabilitation it is normal to need a lot of support and be surrounded by people. However, when we stay sober we get to start working on loving ourselves and being okay with not having people around us constantly. We get to spread our wings and find out what it is that we like doing. We get to find out what we are about, what we stand for, and what makes us tick. We become okay with those situations that used to make us feel awkward such as seeing a movie alone, going to a party where we don’t know that many people, and just showing up for life despite our feelings or doubts. Through continuing to work on ourselves, we learn that we can do anything as long as we are spiritually fit. What comes out of this is the opportunity to start showing up for ourselves for the first time as well as learning how to enjoy those moments where we are alone just as much as those moments when we are around people. There is a sense of self love and being competent that comes from being independent. When you get to the point where your happiness is not contingent on any particular person, place, or thing, but rather a feeling that comes from within, then you will begin to experience what true freedom actually is. This is one of the many gifts that sobriety has to offer.