What Are Your Trust Issues In Sobriety?

When most of us were getting sober we weren’t the most trusting or trustworthy bunch. It can be hard to trust others or ourselves when we had fallen so far down the scale. When we get sober most of us are used to having to take care of ourselves which doesn’t leave much room for us to learn to trust others or let a higher power into our lives.

Why It’s Hard for A Recovering Alcoholic To Trust

Learning how to trust others can be hard especially for the alcoholic who has a preconceived idea that people are untrustworthy usually as a direct result of our actions while we were out using and struggling with our chemical dependency issues. This lack of ability to trust ourselves and others usually stems from years of dishonest behavior and motives on our part. It is hard to believe that others are to be trusted when not only is our behavior questionable but most of us feel unsafe with ourselves both physically and emotionally as well. 

How A Recovering Addict Can Start To Trust

The only way to restore our faith in ourselves and others is to begin to change the things that need to be changed within ourselves by letting go and attending a 12 step recovery program and cleaning our side of the street up. When we begin to live with integrity, and respect as well as develop our own code of morals then not only will it be easier to trust in others but it will also be easier to handle situations when we are disappointed and feel that we or our fellows are falling short of our ideals. When we go through the 12 steps of recovery we can begin to be free without placing indignant demands upon others.

Dealing With Depression And Laziness In Recovery

Sometimes in recovery when we put down the drink things start coming up for us that didn’t before. We get a new set of feelings that most of us have never dealt with. Over time we might become complacent and lazy with our 12-step work. What happens then is that we can become unmotivated and if we are not careful, we can slip into a depression or even go back to engaging in our chemical dependency.

Challenges In Recovery

This is not uncommon considering the one thing that would act as a lubricant has been taken away from us and all we are left with is ourselves and our thoughts. If we leave things until they get bad then life can begin to seem pretty unbearable. It can seem impossible to do even the littlest tasks. We may find that it even affects our relationships negatively. Most of us become short and irritable.

When We Grow In Recovery

It isn’t usually until we get in enough pain that we begin to change and grow. When the pain we are in is greater than our fear of changing and our laziness then we will do so. When this time comes then there are tools available to us when we are ready.  We do not need to suffer in silence. There are many people that have gone through this and come out the other side.

Stay committed to your 12 step recovery programs, this will help with mental health treatment. If we are willing to share what we are going through with another alcoholic/ addict then we can get the solution on how to handle it. It is through our experience, strength, and hope that we are able to pull ourselves and others out of the darkest places. The fact is that there is going to be highs and lows in life and while pain is inevitable sometimes suffering is optional.

Are You Giving 100% In Your Sobriety?

When we are newly sober, get into a 12 step recovery program, and go through the addiction recovery process, most of us are enthusiastic and excited about our life. We have a willingness to go to any lengths to stay sober and continue our newfound resolve. Most of us come out of our battle with chemical dependency declaring that we will never drink again no matter what! This is great however, the longer we stay sober it is common that while we maintain the same level of willingness most of us lose that level of desperation that we once had.

 

Questions To Ask Yourself In Sobriety

It is imperative that we check in with ourselves and ask if we are giving 100%, and if not, then how much are we putting into our sobriety? Are we skipping meetings when we know we need one? Are we not calling our sponsor and checking in?  How can we go back to giving 100%? What needs to change so that we have the best chance at staying sober? 

Are we being dishonest and keeping secrets? If so how can we change these things in order to improve our sobriety?

If we really desire to keep our sobriety and our willing to go to any lengths to do that then we must stay diligent and do whatever it takes to stay on the path. If we find that we are struggling, there are many ways we can get out of our funk -  from talking to people, to praying and meditating - asking for clarity on how to handle situations and of course seeking God’s will for us.