Monday, June 24, 2013

Faulty Emotional Dependencies After Recovery



When we were getting loaded there was that fear for most of us that there would not be enough of what we needed or wanted. Most of us worried about the party being over or running out of booze or drugs or the means to get them. This type of “got to get mine” thinking doesn’t necessarily stop just because we go to Above It All, AA, or other 12 step programs and get sober. Those thoughts that lead to us seeking elevated moods can also lead to us having faulty emotional dependencies on people, places and things. Even after receiving drug addiction detox, many of us can relate to having the thoughts that if we had “a certain something” then we could be happy. If we had the car, house, partner, or job then everything would be good. The problem with this is that those people, places, or things often fail us and we are left burnt up and resentful. When we play the director in our lives there is little room for a power greater than ourselves to step in. When we get sober we learn how to let go of our faulty emotional dependencies and have faith that things will turn out exactly how they are supposed to be in the end. We can begin to let go of what we think will make us happy and be able to see what it feels like to find true happiness. We learn that true happiness does not stem from things around us, but rather from within. It is a happiness and inner peace that cannot be taken away.

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